Do long distance relationships really work?
Have you, would you, or are you currently in a long distance relationship? Do they really work and if so what makes it work. How far is too far? How can you truly trust someone that you cant see for long periods of time? I know that you can see someone everyday and still; not trust them but I am curious about the answer to the question. These are just some questions I have been pondering. What's your take on it?
Dedee
on 1/12/09 3:12 am, edited 1/12/09 3:12 am - Home Is Where, The HEART is, Midwest
on 1/12/09 3:12 am, edited 1/12/09 3:12 am - Home Is Where, The HEART is, Midwest
I have not been in one since High School....but YES I feel they can work. There is no distance for love. You cannot measure it in miles. Hell, how can you trust anyone period? But you can either take the chance and enjoy the moments or you can decide not to trust or love and be lonely forever.
My take on it: I am SECURE enough with Dedee that I can have a long-distance relationship. To me, it starts with YOU.
ETA: As with any relationship COMMUNICATION and HONESTY is very essential.
My take on it: I am SECURE enough with Dedee that I can have a long-distance relationship. To me, it starts with YOU.
ETA: As with any relationship COMMUNICATION and HONESTY is very essential.
I focus not on my disabilty; my focus is on my ABILITIES.
(Dedee, 2009)
My hearing impairment ENABLES me, not disables me.
(Dedee, 2008)
~Dedee
They can, however, what I've learned, is it requires a diligent effort on both parts. If it's lopsided, one would be made to feel that they are getting the short end of the stick. Also, you have to be honest and up front with one another.
*disclaimer - #10's need NOT apply*
*wink, wink*
*disclaimer - #10's need NOT apply*
*wink, wink* 
~Candy~ 
53 lbs lost prior to surgery....
Long distance relationships worked for some people.
If you have trust issues...long distance relationships will not work for you....frankly neither will any other but you have a better chance when they are closer to you.
Long distance relationships work when 2 people make intelligents decisions that we are going to do this and this is what you can expect from me... ie I will call you...email you, etc.
They work when the individuals decide when they we get the time to spend with each other. They work when the communication is good. Good communication, open communication allows people to make good decisions and not worry.
When individuals put work into the relationships they work, but once one of the two starts to drop the load and change, it is evident that they have no interest in remaining in the relationship.
I have been married to a man in prison for a very long time although he is locked up I still could have had trust issues...My mind could have allowed me to visit all kinds of situations and cir****tances. From inside the prison to outside the prison. to this day I remain confident that there were no worries because I believe this man to be true to himself. The problem with this relationship is that I decided that I wanted something more, something different and I dropped my load. For me this was a good decision.
I know people who have good long distance relationship.. I like the fact that they gave themselves a time frame to work within. They are career builders and they gave themselves 3 to 5 years to get to a certain place in live and then one would move. They agreed which would actually move and these kinds of relationships with dreams visions and goal can and will work if you work them... You just have to be willing.
di
If you have trust issues...long distance relationships will not work for you....frankly neither will any other but you have a better chance when they are closer to you.
Long distance relationships work when 2 people make intelligents decisions that we are going to do this and this is what you can expect from me... ie I will call you...email you, etc.
They work when the individuals decide when they we get the time to spend with each other. They work when the communication is good. Good communication, open communication allows people to make good decisions and not worry.
When individuals put work into the relationships they work, but once one of the two starts to drop the load and change, it is evident that they have no interest in remaining in the relationship.
I have been married to a man in prison for a very long time although he is locked up I still could have had trust issues...My mind could have allowed me to visit all kinds of situations and cir****tances. From inside the prison to outside the prison. to this day I remain confident that there were no worries because I believe this man to be true to himself. The problem with this relationship is that I decided that I wanted something more, something different and I dropped my load. For me this was a good decision.
I know people who have good long distance relationship.. I like the fact that they gave themselves a time frame to work within. They are career builders and they gave themselves 3 to 5 years to get to a certain place in live and then one would move. They agreed which would actually move and these kinds of relationships with dreams visions and goal can and will work if you work them... You just have to be willing.
di
On January 12, 2009 at 11:27 AM Pacific Time, Caribbean Princess wrote:
Good Lawd Pastor Di you said a mouthful!AMEN...I try to tell her to limit her responses to 2-4 sentences in lieu of 2-4 pargraphs.
People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown
I don't like them. Tried and failed. I like to be with my SO a lot. I do think its easier when you start off knowing it is a long distance relationship than having one person move away and being forced to having one.
~Shani~
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